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UNFORGIVENESS IN MARRIAGE – PART (II)
Wow! It’s an amazing moment to sit at the feet of the master and learn at His feet. Last week, we started a teaching about Unforgiveness in Marriage and we will be looking at same under different sub-headings
MAJOR CAUSES OF UNFORGIVENESS
Tonight, we will be considering three major causes of Unforgiveness among others.
👉 SPIRIT OF EXCESSIVE ANGER Eph 4 vs 26 – 27
When you’re angry and you permit the anger eat deep into you, it becomes a sin. Anger is an action . Don’t prolong your anger more than necessary. Excessive anger will cause you to develop hatred towards the person involve.
👉 PRIDE / EGO Jer. 9 vs 23
When the only thing you think as a person is me, I and myself then you need to know that self-centeredness is the pathway to pride.
Failure to welcome God-centeredness in the home always make you see your partner or spouse as inferior to you. With this, Unforgiveness will gradually crawl in.
👉 SELF-JUSTIFICATION
Psalm 130 vs 3 – 4
When the partner begins to feel like he is the one that is hurt and because of that needs to inflict suffering on the offendant forgetting that we are not saints and Christ has loves us and we need to express the love not to think that he is the one that did this or that. Remember Matt 6 vs 12 and let mercy prevail whenever he or she does any wrong. Imbibe the attribute of God to be merciful.
EFFECTS OF UNFORGIVENESS IN MARRIAGE
👉Separation From God as a result of the Unforgiveness. It will separate you from your spouse, remember God is love (1John 4 vs 8). Departure of the Holy Spirit.
👉 Unforgiveness opens door for other evil attacks or imaginations such as anger, hatred, revenge, murder, evil thoughts etc
👉 Unforgiveness opens door for sickness such as high blood pressure and depression. Unforgiveness birth anxiety especially towards your spouse.
👉 Unforgiveness hinders blessings and progress.
👉 Unforgiveness present unhappiness state of living for the person. It can lead to untimely death – hell.
WAYS IN WHICH UNFORGIVENESS DESTROYS MARRIAGE
👉 It limits intimacy (the closeness) in marriage. Never lose your intimacy in marriage because once you lose it, gaining it back will take extra effort.
👉 Heavy weight of bitterness marked on the heart – which can actually lead to divorce. The more the bitterness, the weary and tiring the body might be.
👉 The future of the children is at stake – the children will be affected and start learning those ways of Unforgiveness and begin living with it.
👉 Deceived that you’re in charge or power thinking you need to be appeased for the wrong doing of the defendant.
Remember, your spouse is not a Saint likewise you are not. Always pray for and with each other. Flesh fails men, the Spirit of God helps more than your wisdom and self-confidence.
As we conclude this teaching, we pray that may we find the process of forgiving very easy and without stress in the name of Jesus Christ. AMEN!!!
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UNFORGIVENESS IN MARRIAGE – PART 1
It is time for the most interesting , insightful and most educative program on Earth as we gather to learn and hear from the feet of the master, Jesus Christ through His prepared vessel.
We will briefly look at the meaning of Unforgiveness in this context before we dive fully into the teaching of today. Take your writing materials and be prepared.
UNFORGIVENESS is an habit that has eaten deep into the growth of Love in Marriages.
From our previous class, we have come to the understanding that our spouses are not angels then there are chances that we will offend ourselves. With this, there should be room for forgiveness so as not to cause trouble in the heart of the other person (Heb 12 vs 15)
If Unforgiveness can be likened to be a poison and bitterness to the heart then it implies that forgiveness is a purifying / cleansing agent. Forgiveness energizes and strengthen the bond of intimacy between both parties. If we learn to forgive, then we obey the word of God as written in Matt 6 vs 12 that will help us grow in marriage.
Forgiveness is a process and not a one time thing.
STEPS TO BE TAKEN UNTO FORGIVENESS
👉 Release the guilty person from your judgment: Don’t judge the person. Don’t dwell too much in the offences of the person to ease the pain.
👉 Be determine to forgive: With this, you have to take decision to forgive the person and love the person over the pain he or she had caused you.
👉Bless your partner: By praying for him or her despite the spouse’s offense. Failure to bless your partner can caused him or her some pains, which you should be ready to face the consequences together because marriage is more than I DO which many responded to at the alter. Prayer is a powerful tool to use in the marriage.
👉 Move On: forgive and forget such hurt. We should imbibe the attribute of God forgiving. We can decide not to dwell in the hurt rather forgive, forget and Live on. Depression sets in whenever one keep feeding on the hurt. Never stop forgiving your spouse.
👉 Repeat all the aforementioned steps until there is genuine release, forgiving, forgetting, blessing and living on
Thank you so much. This is where we will be dropping tonight’s pen as we continue the effect of Unforgiveness in the marriage next week Wednesday.
Feel free to comment, share your experience and direct your questions to us. God bless us
© YGReady 2021
DEALING WITH YOUR IN-LAWS
Today is another episode for inspirational and sensational teaching for marital boosting. May your eyes of understanding be open to see this deep truth.
Let’s make something clear to us, In marriage, In laws are very important because they are a crucial part of your spouse’s life. They either make or mar your marriage – this is one among many reasons why you need to choose from the same faith.
Note this: You don’t choose your family members but you choose your partner and thereby choose your inlaw. Be reasonable with your in inlaws but your loyalty is to your spouse
You don’t just marry a person you also marry his or her family. Take your time to know more about your in-laws as their impact in a home is huge.
Key 1: Regard your inlaws and Be kind to them. Always be nice in your actions and have kind words in your bossom towards your inlaw.
Key 2: know yourself and never be an imposter. Try to be yourself and and don’t re-make yourself into what your inlaws want.
Key 3: Work with your spouse and never put your spouse in a situation where he or she will have to choose between you and his relatives.
Key 4: Try to set boundaries and limit and enforce it. Set family values and communicate it to your inlaws.
Key 5. Communicate directly with your in-laws. Don’t ask your spouse to talk on your behalf. Address issues as soon as possible. Always be at the defending edge to protect the image of your spouse.
Key 6. Never prioritize spending time with your family over your spouse.It had to be balanced.
Key 7: Be Matured – Accept the fact that your inlaws are not your parent and may not follow some rules or go extra miles for you. Learn to see things from your inlaws point of view. You can agree to hear and consider the input of your inlaws because of a different perspective on things can actually help you make decision BUT the final word has to be yours and his/hers alone.
There are several other ways on how to deal with your in-laws. In the comment section, let’s hear your view.
God bless you.
MARRIAGE EXPECTATIONS AND HOW TO RESOLVE THEM
Every marriage in life has her own expectations and the way you resolve them differs based on your level of marital understanding. Listed below are some of the expectations in a marriage.
1. Challenges with finance
2. Loneliness
3. Romance and affection
4. Inlaw strains
5. Self respect or according each other respect
6. Spiritual growth together
7. Consideration for each other’s differences
8. Trials and suffering
9. Spending quality time with each other
10. Patience
11. Helping each others in all ways
12. Children
13. Communication challenges
14. Sexual intimacy
15. Resolving conflicts
16. Determining priorities
4 GREAT WAYS TO RESOLVE ALL MARRIAGE EXPECTATIONS
1. Remember your commitment to a lifetime love and forgiveness.
2. Proper communication and understanding. (it simply means talking and active listening, it’s a two way process according to English)
Beware, ladies are difficult to understand so as a man, you will have to learn how to deal her with understanding.
3. Work to develop God’s perspective of you and your spouse – Since you believe in him that he provided your spouse for you.
4. Don’t give up on your dreams – Communicate about your dreams and share things together, don’t think alone when in marriage, share it with your spouse for easy and fast accomplishment.
God bless you.
ACTIONS THAT DESTROY MARRIAGES.
Welcome to another episode of Youth Get Ready class. Today, we will be considering some actions, behaviors or things that can actually destroy Marriages. Many among them are things that people neglect and count as *doesn’t matter*. Sit back, take your pen and jot as you read through those actions briefly.
Before we dive deeply into the class, I want us to understand that the actions are not limited to the ones we will be discussing tonight.
👉Communication Challenge: Good communication smoothens a successful marriage. The challenges here include::
- Poor skills
- Abusive words
- Create time to discuss life and selves
👉Unforgiveness :: Imbibe the habit of forgiving your spouse to avoid things that might crush marriage. Remember, we ain’t perfect and learn to let go!
👉 Pride:: Egoism kills many Marriages. Men should take not of this piece.
Learn to say sorry when you’re wrong and do the needful. Watch it
👉 Taking Your Spouse For Granted :: Always take your marriage vow serious and don’t take it for granted. To the ladies, learn to dress well and don’t cultivate the habit of using wrapper up and down the home. To the men, take good care of your woman.
👉 Family or Friendly Intervention :: Your new family should be your utmost priority. In all, let your spouse be first..
👉 Unreliable :: ONCE the spouse ain’t reliable, this can cause chaos in marriage. Taking note of discussed matters especially those ones that you didn’t finalized…
👉 Tuning With your Spouse’s :: Try to understand the expression written all over your spouse and feel concern about it. Show sympathy and empathy when necessary.
👉 Touch In Marriage :: Never underestimate the power of touch in your marriage and the power or energy it gives to your spouse. There should be at least a touch (kiss, caress etc) in a day and give your spouse a sensitive touch. Marriages ain’t all about sex….
👉 Avoiding Conflicts ::Always embrace meaningful conversation. Welcome a positive reasoning and fix things up. Dig deep to settle matters
👉 Lack Of Investment :: Plan to have many sources and don’t forget giving your children a full lifetime investment
This brings us to the end of today’s class. If you have question drop it in the comment section and it will be treated well.
God bless you
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