Wow! It’s an amazing moment to sit at the feet of the master and learn at His feet. Last week, we started a teaching about Unforgiveness in Marriage and we will be looking at same under different sub-headings

MAJOR CAUSES OF UNFORGIVENESS

Tonight, we will be considering three major causes of Unforgiveness among others.

👉 SPIRIT OF EXCESSIVE ANGER Eph 4 vs 26 – 27
When you’re angry and you permit the anger eat deep into you, it becomes a sin. Anger is an action . Don’t prolong your anger more than necessary. Excessive anger will cause you to develop hatred towards the person involve.

👉 PRIDE / EGO Jer. 9 vs 23

When the only thing you think as a person is me, I and myself then you need to know that self-centeredness is the pathway to pride.
Failure to welcome God-centeredness in the home always make you see your partner or spouse as inferior to you. With this, Unforgiveness will gradually crawl in.

👉 SELF-JUSTIFICATION
Psalm 130 vs 3 – 4

When the partner begins to feel like he is the one that is hurt and because of that needs to inflict suffering on the offendant forgetting that we are not saints and Christ has loves us and we need to express the love not to think that he is the one that did this or that. Remember Matt 6 vs 12 and let mercy prevail whenever he or she does any wrong. Imbibe the attribute of God to be merciful.

EFFECTS OF UNFORGIVENESS IN MARRIAGE

👉Separation From God as a result of the Unforgiveness. It will separate you from your spouse, remember God is love (1John 4 vs 8). Departure of the Holy Spirit.

👉 Unforgiveness opens door for other evil attacks or imaginations such as anger, hatred, revenge, murder, evil thoughts etc

👉 Unforgiveness opens door for sickness such as high blood pressure and depression. Unforgiveness birth anxiety especially towards your spouse.

👉 Unforgiveness hinders blessings and progress.

👉 Unforgiveness present unhappiness state of living for the person. It can lead to untimely death – hell.

WAYS IN WHICH UNFORGIVENESS DESTROYS MARRIAGE

👉 It limits intimacy (the closeness) in marriage. Never lose your intimacy in marriage because once you lose it, gaining it back will take extra effort.

👉 Heavy weight of bitterness marked on the heart – which can actually lead to divorce. The more the bitterness, the weary and tiring the body might be.

👉 The future of the children is at stake – the children will be affected and start learning those ways of Unforgiveness and begin living with it.

👉 Deceived that you’re in charge or power thinking you need to be appeased for the wrong doing of the defendant.

Remember, your spouse is not a Saint likewise you are not. Always pray for and with each other. Flesh fails men, the Spirit of God helps more than your wisdom and self-confidence.

As we conclude this teaching, we pray that may we find the process of forgiving very easy and without stress in the name of Jesus Christ. AMEN!!!

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