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UNFORGIVENESS IN MARRIAGE – PART 1

It is time for the most interesting , insightful and most educative program on Earth as we gather to learn and hear from the feet of the master, Jesus Christ through His prepared vessel.

We will briefly look at the meaning of Unforgiveness in this context before we dive fully into the teaching of today. Take your writing materials and be prepared.

UNFORGIVENESS is an habit that has eaten deep into the growth of Love in Marriages.

From our previous class, we have come to the understanding that our spouses are not angels then there are chances that we will offend ourselves. With this, there should be room for forgiveness so as not to cause trouble in the heart of the other person (Heb 12 vs 15)

If Unforgiveness can be likened to be a poison and bitterness to the heart then it implies that forgiveness is a purifying / cleansing agent. Forgiveness energizes and strengthen the bond of intimacy between both parties. If we learn to forgive, then we obey the word of God as written in Matt 6 vs 12 that will help us grow in marriage.

Forgiveness is a process and not a one time thing.

STEPS TO BE TAKEN UNTO FORGIVENESS

👉 Release the guilty person from your judgment: Don’t judge the person. Don’t dwell too much in the offences of the person to ease the pain.

👉 Be determine to forgive: With this, you have to take decision to forgive the person and love the person over the pain he or she had caused you.

👉Bless your partner: By praying for him or her despite the spouse’s offense. Failure to bless your partner can caused him or her some pains, which you should be ready to face the consequences together because marriage is more than I DO which many responded to at the alter. Prayer is a powerful tool to use in the marriage.

👉 Move On: forgive and forget such hurt. We should imbibe the attribute of God forgiving. We can decide not to dwell in the hurt rather forgive, forget and Live on. Depression sets in whenever one keep feeding on the hurt. Never stop forgiving your spouse.

👉 Repeat all the aforementioned steps until there is genuine release, forgiving, forgetting, blessing and living on

Thank you so much. This is where we will be dropping tonight’s pen as we continue the effect of Unforgiveness in the marriage next week Wednesday.

Feel free to comment, share your experience and direct your questions to us. God bless us

© YGReady 2021

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MARRIAGE EXPECTATIONS AND HOW TO RESOLVE THEM

Every marriage in life has her own expectations and the way you resolve them differs based on your level of marital understanding. Listed below are some of the expectations in a marriage.

1. Challenges with finance
2. Loneliness 
3. Romance and affection
4. Inlaw strains
5. Self respect or according each other respect
6. Spiritual  growth together
7. Consideration for each other’s differences
8. Trials and suffering
9. Spending quality time with each other
10. Patience
11. Helping each others in all ways
12. Children
13. Communication  challenges
14. Sexual intimacy
15. Resolving conflicts
16. Determining priorities

4 GREAT WAYS TO RESOLVE ALL MARRIAGE EXPECTATIONS

1. Remember your commitment to a lifetime love and forgiveness.

2. Proper communication and understanding. (it simply means talking and active listening, it’s a two way process according to English)
Beware, ladies are difficult to understand so as a man, you will have to learn how to deal her with understanding.

3. Work to develop God’s perspective of you and your spouse – Since you believe in him that he provided your spouse for you.

4. Don’t give up on your dreams – Communicate about your dreams and share things together, don’t think alone when in marriage, share it with your spouse for easy and fast accomplishment.

God bless you.

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ACTIONS THAT DESTROY MARRIAGES.

Welcome to another episode of Youth Get Ready class. Today, we will be considering some actions, behaviors or things that can actually destroy Marriages. Many among them are things that people neglect and count as *doesn’t matter*. Sit back, take your pen and jot as you read through those actions briefly.

Before we dive deeply into the class, I want us to understand that the actions are not limited to the ones we will be discussing tonight.

👉Communication Challenge: Good communication smoothens a successful marriage. The challenges here include::

  • Poor skills
  • Abusive words
  • Create time to discuss life and selves

👉Unforgiveness :: Imbibe the habit of forgiving your spouse to avoid things that might crush marriage. Remember, we ain’t perfect and learn to let go!

👉 Pride:: Egoism kills many Marriages. Men should take not of this piece.
Learn to say sorry when you’re wrong and do the needful. Watch it

👉 Taking Your Spouse For Granted :: Always take your marriage vow serious and don’t take it for granted. To the ladies, learn to dress well and don’t cultivate the habit of using wrapper up and down the home. To the men, take good care of your woman.

👉 Family or Friendly Intervention :: Your new family should be your utmost priority. In all, let your spouse be first..

👉 Unreliable :: ONCE the spouse ain’t reliable, this can cause chaos in marriage. Taking note of discussed matters especially those ones that you didn’t finalized…

👉 Tuning With your Spouse’s :: Try to understand the expression written all over your spouse and feel concern about it. Show sympathy and empathy when necessary.

👉 Touch In Marriage :: Never underestimate the power of touch in your marriage and the power or energy it gives to your spouse. There should be at least a touch (kiss, caress etc) in a day and give your spouse a sensitive touch. Marriages ain’t all about sex….

👉 Avoiding Conflicts ::Always embrace meaningful conversation. Welcome a positive reasoning and fix things up. Dig deep to settle matters

👉 Lack Of Investment :: Plan to have many sources and don’t forget giving your children a full lifetime investment

This brings us to the end of today’s class. If you have question drop it in the comment section and it will be treated well.

God bless you